Posted by: Brad Stanford | May 30, 2011

Implode For The Better (I Dare You To Move)

When I stopped blogging oh-so-many months ago, it was in an effort to get more important things done. One of which was to focus on the last trimester, birth, and introduction of our fifth child. As the months of no-writing-time ticked by, I began to worry that I might never get back to it.

As you can see, I have returned.

As you can also see, on the internet, time is meaningless. You can read the last entry that I wrote and this one back to back. and if this is your first visit here, you will have indication of the time between this post and the last post. Time travel does exist!

Anyway, the direction of my life has once again put writing on the radar. Not just for me, but for others as well. We’ll talk about that some other time.

This delay-of-game naturally made me think of the laws of gravity. Of course.

The more dense something is, the more gravity it has. (No, not dense like dumb, but dense as in chocked full of compacted atomic goodness.) In this case, if you’re filling up your life with things that have nothing to do with what you’ve been designed to do, then you’re going to attract more things that have nothing to do with what you’re designed to do. Conversely, if you maximize what you’re good at doing, and minimize the distractions, you will attract more ability to do what you’re good at doing.

Of course, other cosmic events around you (and outside of your control) are constantly fighting you. If a black hole opens up shop next door, you’re going to lose some matter and energy to it. This is why you need to be super careful about who your friends are, and why. If a supernova goes off in your part of the galaxy, it might be that you get blown to bits, and you have to start over acquiring mass like you did at the beginning.

But if you have decided that – no matter what the circumstances – you are going to head in such-and-so direction, then it’s a matter of pointing in that direction and making a move.

Since we have been programmed to be still and try to look like everyone else, we find it very difficult to even want to make a move. Moving will cause failure, failure will cause pain, and we’re trying to avoid both failure and pain at all costs. Or so we’ve been told.

But here’s the secret of the black hole: it’s heavy enough to continue attracting things without any further effort.

Let’s say this gravitational singularity started out as a star. It’s moving through space like everything else. One day, it collapses into itself. All of the matter that was a giant ball of glowing gas is now packed into an area the size of a football field. This thing is heavy!

At this point, it no longer matters if this once-upon-a-time star is moving or not. It is attracting things to itself. It now has a gravitational field that few things can escape.

Same for you. There is effort in acquiring the people, equipment, and ideas to do what you have been made to do. But at some point, it can all implode for the better.

But no one tells you that. We’re told to avoid pain, to avoid movement, to avoid everything, because it my cause everything to explode. But, you must go through the same exercises to make implosion happen. And you won’t really know which one you’re going to get:

The risk is explosion – nothing works, and you have to start over with burn marks and scars, making you less attractive, and less able (so goes the thinking).

The goal is implosion – You can’t help but attract the right kind of people, talent, and assets to keep doing what you’re wired to do.

We know what explosion looks like – the bright shining star who is one day glowing super bright, and the next is covered in scandal, and then the next is out of the public eye for good. The investor who is rich on paper one day, and bankrupt the next. The nation that was once the lighthouse of freedom that has turned into a police state (a lack of freedom) for the sake of “security” (maintaining a freedom that no longer exists).

But we also know what implosion looks like – a collapsed Apple Computer that ends up surpassing Microsoft in profits. A collapsed U2 that comes back from inter-band issues and is still generating new material and touring all these years later. The bankrupt Walt Disney who builds Disneyland.

The main problem is that implosion has no formula: “If you will get this many people around you selling this many things, you’ll implode.”  Or, “If you’ll declare bankruptcy and initiate the implosion yourself, it will happen faster.” Nope. It’s different for everyone, hence the adventure. As Seth Godin says, “Art is the act of navigating without a map.”

All I can tell you is this: amass mass. Spend time on the direction you want to go. Spend money on what you’re trying to do. Spend relationship energy on those who can help you. Earn the trust of those who you need to believe in what you’re doing. Burn bad reviews and negative comments as fuel for your engine – extracting the truth that makes you better, and the motivation to prove the lies to be incorrect.

If you need better relationships, perhaps your old way of relating needs to collapse into a new way, so that the right kind of people are attracted into orbit.

If your business needs sales, maybe it needs to collapse in some way first, to attract customers, or suppliers, or some other ingredient that’s missing.

If your spiritual life is lacking, maybe your religion should collapse out of the way so that you can see God.

Don’t fear the failure. Pain is not optional in this world. But there is a difference between failing to become a gravitational force today, and being a failure for all time. There is a difference between the pain of becoming a mighty force in your universe, and the pain of being in the wrong place at the wrong time all the time.

For a human, collecting mass, creating gravity, and altering the course of the universe around you is part calling, and part choice.

As Switchfoot would say, I dare you to move.

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